Sunday, April 30, 2006

Weekend details

Yesterday, my Lord took His sons to a play park and for a bit of shopping, while i stayed home (with His two daughters) mostly, to prepare for the party for His oldest son's 9th birthday party but also because He is very careful about how often i leave the house.

[Am i really old enough to have given birth 9 years ago? Yikes. Guess i am. And how much has changed in my life since then; but it is so much better now!]

His daughters aren't really old enough to help but the 3.5 yo tries, and she is at the point that she can do some things. Since my Lord is firm that His sons won't be doing female work, i do look forward to her really being able to help. [One advatage to the new house is that it has a large woodstove, so His sons can deal with the wood as well as outside chores. Female work is out but they shouldn't get spoiled/lazy, either!]

The party went well. It is always nice to have our families here, and A. really enjoyed his presents. The cake i made came out well; it usually does but i always w0rry, as i want to look good for His family. They've accepted me but i know that they were disappointed that He didn't marry someone Korean. It is funny that one reason they were concerned it that (being very traditional) they thought i wouldn't take good enough care of Him, but they now think that i do -- and His brother even wishes that his wife would learn to be more 'mannerly' (meaning deferential) from me.

Today was our church fellowship day, and it was a bit of a struggle to sit through services, as He had beaten (for His fun/amusment, not my punishment) me quite nicely last night -- and the wives sit on wooden benches at the back during the services. Very hard not to squirm or decide to go stand in the kitchen, both of which would have gotten me a punishment beating, both tonoight and then again the night before the next services in 2 weeks.

Saturday, April 29, 2006

How things work

A friend of mine wrote this (and i'm posting it with her approval) but it describes my Lord's thoughts as well:

While I do think there is a difference between submission (inward desire or willingness to be under another's authority) and obedience (the outward actions of doing what another tells one to), I see the Scripture telling women very clearly that they need to be both obedient and submissive towards their husbands 'in every thing.' In the Greek, the same word is used for the obedience of wives and children, so such distinctions are hard to maintain. Plus, I think that a truly submissive attitude will lead to obedient actions, and I have always had a hard time understanding how a wife could submit inwardly without outward obedience.

My husband expects me to both obey and submit, quickly and completely. End of story.

He often asks my opinion on decisions he has to make, when he thinks there is a good reason to, but we are both clear that asking is part of the overall information gathering process, and he asks because he knows that I often have information that will be helpful in making that particular decision. He is not asking because I have an equal say in the decision that needs to be made, and he just as often doesn't ask me, sometimes because he has decided that I don't have additional helpful information and sometimes just because.......

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an incredibly non-PC view of the sexes

In the beginning, God created everything.
The heavens and the earth.
Night and day.
The oceans and the lands.
The plants.
All the animals.

ANd then He breathed life into the pinnacle of His creation: man -- Adam.

But He saw that Adam was lonely.

Adam was high above the animals.
And way below God.

So God created woman -- eve.
Not as high as the pinnacle of creation -- man.
But not as quite low as the animals, either.

A help meet for Adam.
Help = servant.
Meet = fit, appropriate.

This in-between in status is the female's natural state. Not a result of the Fall or the fall-out from the Fall, but the way life was intended to be.

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